He was arrogant, condescending and spoke like a closeted homosexual Subway Sandwich artist supporting his way through school to become a Planetary Scientist. Naturally upon my first impression he was wearing a gold chain (red flag #1) and made me split a Gatorade when I asked for something to drink cause he “only had a few left”.I tried my hardest to swallow my pride and pretend to like him. He insisted we go to a local Teppanyaki restaurant for their “super dank half off lunch specials” (red flag #2).It'll just give the asshole ammunition to not like you and your mate, blinded by love/lust/whatever, will listen to him even if she denies it. So gently explain that when you love someone it's totally fine to be upset but if that's what you are the majority of the time, well then you're not with a very nice person. It's so easy to sit back and judge other people actions but like, you're not them. Okay maybe reasons that you can't understand but you can't force your opinion on anyone.This can sound extremely patronising and condescending and erupt into a row where she will say, "So you don't like him?! You are lovely and he is a creepy, snaky little piece of shit! *Do this with the aid of vodka/your alcohol of choice Has she been with anyone before? And before you do, take a moment just to see things from her point of view. What's the point in having the same convo fifty times. Do you really wanna lose a good friend over a stupid asshole?
She deserves so much better, but how do I get her to see that and leave this jerk? How many exes do you have who are just plain assh*les? He didn't mean to call me a slut, he just doesn't like this dress on me.21. We all have them, even if we don't want to admit it. Dear Bestie, We know that people won’t change until they’re ready to, until they choose to, so spending energy on trying to change anyone is moot.Your friend won’t leave her boyfriend until she has a change within and makes that choice from her own desire.