Logically, this takes less time if you can date several people concurrently. While it’s a total guess, Cool Logicians make up about 25-30% of the US dating public.
Heartfelt Believers may or may not know the facts of dating. They aren’t interested in the logic of shopping around, meeting lots of people, and trying on many different kinds of potential partners.
We’re not all as shallow and checklist-y as this unfortunate group you encountered.
In a city where the single girl to guy ratio is 2:1 and there’s beautiful people everywhere, it’s a single guy’s playground. And, thank you: you proved my point – dating in New York is a whole different game. LLG @LLG: I have to agree with @jamie I’m not American (I’m Canadian) and come from a place where people tend to be less materialistic because there isn’t a lot of money.
The American men I've dated were (coincidentally) all from DC.
And overall, I found them swaggering, careerist, and utterly terrified of commitment.
US When it comes to dating multiple people at once, it seems that daters here can be broken into two broad groups. You often forget what story you’ve told which person. They do the work expecting that they are going to meet the most compatible person because they are auditioning lots of potential partners.
I am not the only American woman that has the problem, as several of my fellow countrywomen complain of the same thing with the lovely men of these shores. I am not aggressive or pushy or shy or any of the stereotypical things that would turn a man off.
Back home a date that stretched on - by the man's own suggestion, not mine - from drinks, to dinner, to after dinner coffee, with conversation throughout - and then possibly even a good-night kiss would mean he was interested in at least getting to know the woman better! It seems that I can engage in good conversation and emails, even telephone conversations prior to the dates ...
In the US I was very successful with men, but here it seems that though I have long dates that go on for hours with laughter, interesting conversation, and sometimes even a kiss, the men never want to see me again!
The problem is that I never seem - at least in Britain - to be able to get past the first date!